How to Choose a Maid Or Matron of Honor

Sometimes, choosing your Maid of Honor is the easiest thing in the world. You have a best friend, you have been best friends since second grade and you confide every detail of every aspect of your life with one another. You are inseparable and there is no other choice.

That’s great for you, but what about the rest of us?

Well, the rest of us have some decisions to make and we need all the help and advice we can get. Here are a few pointers to get you on your way.

First, decide how much responsibility you want your Maid of Honor to have. Traditionally, they have a range of responsibilities, including helping to get out the invitations, organizing the bridal shower or bachelorette party, making sure the bridesmaids are taken care of, that they have their dresses and flowers, helping the bride to choose her wedding gown and making sure that all adjustments are made in time, keeping the bride calm on her big day and maybe even making a speech at the wedding reception. Phew! If you want them to do all this, then half your candidates may fall by the wayside straight away.

There are no hard and fast rules about whether your Maid of Honor should be a friend or relative. Just choose someone who you can trust, is capable of doing whatever you need them to do and who will have only your best interests at heart. Don’t be pressured into choosing someone for any other reason.

It may be that your are left with a choice of two candidates and are finding it impossible to choose between the two. Maybe you have all three been friends since the second grade and both your friends are very capable people. Then why not have both? There is nothing in the rules which says you can only have one.

If you choose to do this, draw up a list of their responsibilities and divide them up between them. That way, everyone knows what they have to do and there can be no “But I thought you were doing that” moments.

Whatever you choose to do, careful and early planning will make your big day go much more smoothly and stress free.

Good Luck!

Jessica Short